Comments on: Money & Marriage: 7 lessons I have learned so far

By: bob

bob — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 15:53:50 +0000

@Frugal vet tech
great point… I need to work on that one myself – or so my wife would say

By: Frugal Vet Tech (Student)

Frugal Vet Tech (Student) — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 01:24:54 +0000

All are excellent points. I’ve been learning three and four in the last six months or so. Oftentimes, bringing up the action/behavior you didn’t like causes more trouble then it’s worth. So what if my husband spent $3 on shampoo when I only would have spent $1 (from combining a coupon with a sale)? Those $2 aren’t going to derail our entire life. It keeps the mood in our house much happier if I say, “Thanks for getting shampoo, Honey!” then if I say “Why did you buy shampoo? I had a coupon for that and we could have saved $2″. Tough lesson to learn, though, sometimes…

By: bob

bob — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 12:41:39 +0000

@Alyssa
Your point on paying the bills together is a good one. We have had instances where we were both thinking different things because we didn’t pay them together. Generally, I take the responsibility for them, but it definitely helps when both are on the same page.

By: Alyssa @ Keeping the Kingdom First

Alyssa @ Keeping the Kingdom First — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 02:49:20 +0000

I have also been married just over 3 years. I can certainly agree with the lessons you have learned- and I can say we learned them the hard way.

Before I got married, I was a fiercely independent single mom. What an adjustment it was when we switched to a joint checking account!

One thing we do to eliminate strife is pay the bills together. That way there are no surprises!

By: bob

bob — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 14:28:57 +0000

@Curt

yea, You are right the whole “sharing” thing was a bigger deal than I realized before I got married. Becoming a Sharer is a very important skill to develop when (or preferably before) you get married…

By: Curt

Curt — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 01:16:44 +0000

Excellent article. I agree with every point. Without working together, it’s very hard to have an intimidate relationship. How you plan to spend money is based on your values and goals in life. Sharing your plans about money is sharing your values and goals. It’s impossible to separate them.

By: jeffapperton

jeffapperton — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 11:08:09 +0000

I totally agree with the need for couples to work on a budget, while leaving space for individual choices. However, you also need to think of new avenues for generating income. One example is the forex market (foreign exchange). For people who love the financial world and the Internet it's a great option to consider. There is plenty of information at forex trading education resources, such as ForexFace.com. Such websites include articles on forex basics and on how to choose a forex trading system.